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xsjmum Site Admin

Joined: 24 Mar 2008 Posts: 107
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Posted: Thu Jul 03, 2008 4:56 am Post subject: Effects on your relationships |
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How did your loss effect your relationship with others that are close to you? |
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stacie77
Joined: 05 Jun 2008 Posts: 19
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Posted: Thu Jul 03, 2008 2:45 pm Post subject: |
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I think it brought Brad and myself closer together.
I have 4 sisters, they were all very supportive.
My mom is still my saving grace.
When I was pregnant with Gracie I had 5 friends that were too. We all were due a couple weeks apart. I was first. So I do think I distanced myslef from them a little bit. It was very hard to see them growing and it made me feel very uncomfortable to hear them talk about there healthy babies. I never wish anything bad for them, but I became very judgemental. Why do they get to have something and I dont! What makes them better than me! and so on.. I would get upset with myself thinking that why. Now all there babies are here and I look at them and hold them and think this is what my Gracie would be.. Its hard.. |
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grainer80

Joined: 25 Apr 2008 Posts: 16
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Posted: Sun Jul 06, 2008 6:55 pm Post subject: |
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Hi Stacey,
I too felt the same way, I worked with a girl who was pregnant that the same time and she didn't go to any Dr appointments and was using hard drugs. Her little boy was health and mine wasn't. I used to think ok if there is a GOD why would he let her baby make it and be health and her get to be a mom. and mine is sick and I don't get the chance to be a mom. When I did everything right. It was a horrible feeling,, but that along with other pain of loosing your baby starts to dwindle and you start to remember the time you had with your Angel. And smile !!
Sometimes I think God plans it that way to save them from the world we live in and for us to find eachother and form friendships, with our experience of loosing our babies we have all made friends with eachother and maybe our paths would have never crossed?
<3
Kathleen
Mom to Edward Maranda
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